Take 2

Ok this is the letter I actually sent to Studio 5...I cleaned it up a bit...

Dear KSL's Studio 5,

Question...what in the world made you think it was a good idea to air a story on how to cope with infertility featuring a woman who has a child? No, I did not miss the part where you went over how she struggled for a long time to conceive and went through a couple failed rounds of in vitro which I'm sure was very traumatic...but then she got pregnant on her own so...what gives? What, pray tell, are those of us who are still childless and rapidly having to face the possitility (if it hasn't been concluded already) that we may never have biological children, supposed to learn from this? That after we've spent thousands of dollars on failed treatments there's still hope? That maybe we'll be lucky enough to experience some kind of miracle like she did? And how exactly did you expect us to feel when she tearfully expressed how hard it is to tell her little boy that he might never have a sibling? Are we supposed to feel bad that she may be stuck with just one child while some of us could very likely end up with no children at all? No seriously, please tell me because I'm REALLY not understanding how this is supposed to help me or anyone else in my position.

Truly, I felt that story was in extremely poor taste...shame on you! While that woman did have some good advice and suggestions, you featuring her as some kind of expert on acceptance is absolutely and insensitively ridiculous. Because when it comes down to it, she had to "accept" the fact that she was infertile for what, a few years tops? Yeah yeah yeah, she has to accept the fact that she may never have another child but seriously lady, be grateful for what you have because there are PLENTY of people who will never have that joy. And as far as I know, we childless couples would be perfectly happy with just one child. Studio 5, did you honestly think we'd relate to that or were you just rubbing salt in our wounds?

I don't think it's unreasonable of me to ask that you take more than 2 seconds to freaking THINK about the stories you cover before you actually air them. Maybe next time you could, you know, talk to someone who is CURRENTLY dealing with infertility and see how they would respond to your "dealing with hard stuff" feature. Because quite frankly, you made it worse.

Hurtfully and angrily signed,
Julie

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Dear KSL's Studio 5,

Question...what in the world made you think it was a good idea to air a story on how to cope with infertility featuring a woman who has a child? No, I did not miss the part where you went over how she struggled for a long time to conceive and went through a couple failed rounds of in vitro which I'm sure was very traumatic...but then she got pregnant on her own so...what gives? What, pray tell, are those of us who are still childless and rapidly having to face the possibility that we may never have biological children, supposed to learn from this? That after we've spent thousands of dollars on failed treatments there's still hope? That maybe we'll be lucky enough to experience some kind of miracle like she did? And how exactly did you expect us to feel when she sadly expressed how hard it is to tell her little boy that he might never have a sibling? Are we supposed to feel bad that she may be stuck with just one child while some of us very likely could end up with no children at all? No seriously, please tell me because I'm REALLY not understanding how this is supposed to help me or anyone else in my position.

Maybe I'm just bitter at the moment. Maybe I'm simply struggling with the fact that if this round of treatment doesn't work, I have just one option left which is incredibly expensive and in no way guarantees I will become a mother. But truly, I felt that story was in extremely poor taste. Granted, the fact that I just happened to see it while in the waiting room at the fertility clinic was a big fat dose of irony I really didn't need or appreciate and that is not your fault...but still, shame on you. While that woman did have some good advice and suggestions (although, no offense, I did the whole relying on the Lord thing and it got me absolutely nowhere), you featuring her as some kind of expert on acceptance is, pardon my french, complete BULLSHIT. Because when it comes down to it, she had to "accept" the fact that she was infertile for what, a few years tops? Yeah yeah yeah, she has to accept the fact that she may never have another child. But as far as I know, we childless couples would be perfectly happy with only one child. So did you honestly think we'd relate to that?? Seriously lady, be grateful for what you have because there are PLENTY of people who will never have what you do.

So yeah, I'm angry. And perhaps I'm taking this anger out on your retarded show. But do you think it's unreasonable of me to ask that you take more than 2 seconds to freaking THINK about the stories you cover before you actually air them? Maybe next time you could, you know, talk to someone who is currently dealing w/infertility and see how they would respond to your "dealing with hard stuff" feature.

Frustratedly and angrily signed,
Julie

Here's the video if you can stomach it. Be warned, it's pretty long.

Happy Mother's Day!

My mom is pretty darn cool. :-)

Oh Elyse...

It's my birthday today (well, technically yesterday, seeing as how it's 2:30am on Tuesday), and as I was walking into the office cursing myself for not taking the day off, an explosion of pink and purple and all things girlie met my eyes...

...haha yeah. My co-worker, Elyse, decided to decorate my cubicle. I can't remember the last time anyone did something like this for me, and as embarassing as it was (I just dunno what to do w/all that attention), it totally made working on my birthday bearable. So thanks Elyse, you crazy woman!

YES

Ok, you've probably all seen this already b/c it's all over the place, but I couldn't resist...love it!!!

Grrrr

Two questions:

1-Why do some guys think that relentlessly making fun of people is funny? I have several co-workers of the male persuasion who don't know when to stop and genuinely think that finding ways to laugh at anyone else's expense is hilarious and totally socially acceptable. No, my feelings are not hurt...their stupidity does not cause me emotional distress, I just find it extremely irritating.

2-Why is it that guys expect you to find their mockery of you humorous but when you turn the tables and burn them with some mad teasing skills of your own, they get offended? I'm just saying, don't dish it out if you can't take it (you big babies).

In conclusion...boys, a little teasing is good. But you can only take it so far before it's ceases to be funny and becomes annoying. So learn when to stop...if you don't know how much is too much, find a nice, honest female friend to ask. Because seriously, you're not as funny as you think you are.

Tragedy...

I was on facebook last night and noticed a few of my friends had posted a request for everyone to pray for the husband of their friend who went missing while hiking in Hawaii last week. This friend of theirs is a girl I went to junior high and high school with...I wouldn't say she and I were friends, but she was in some of my classes, we did a play together, etc...so I definitely can say I know who she is.

Well...I checked the local news websites tonight to see if there was any kind of follow up, and it appears they have found his body. It hasn't "officially" been identified as him, but the description of his clothing matches...so...yeah.

Sick doesn't even begin to cover how I feel for her and their son...I cannot fathom what it would be like to lose your husband or father. I pray they will be able to find peace soon.

Crazy how events like this force you to really appreciate what you have.